Applying for Jobs After Having a Baby

Applying for Jobs After Having a Baby

Applying for Jobs After Having a Baby

If you’re looking for some good advice on this topic, I have none. This blog entry is merely me freaking out a little bit.

I finished my Master of Social Work degree this past May, four and a half months before giving birth to my wittle Jackiepoo. I didn’t bother looking for a job because A- we moved two weeks later, and B- I was five months pregnant and figured I could chillax for a bit, at least until he was three months old. By then, I’d have my bearings as a mom and be ready to put him in daycare so I could finally work to pay off that pricey (but worth it!) degree.

Three months with Jack came and went. I felt, in no way, ready to go to work. I’ve never wanted to be a stay-at-home mom (SAHM), but boyyy do I totally get it now. I so admire women who go back to work shortly after having their babies. The thought makes me want to cry a river. I had put Jack on the base daycare waiting list before he was born, indicating that I would need care when he was three months old. Well, the waiting list is ridiculously long, and even though I put Jack on it ages ago, the online status predicted they could get him in when he was six months old.

All right, that sounded doable. Six months. So, that was the plan—until last week, when I received an email stating there was a spot available for him NOW. Ummmm what? Exsqueeze me? I thought I had another two months! I haven’t built up my frozen milk stash yet! Plus, I’m not done cuddling with my baby all day! They gave me two days to accept or decline the offer. Though I keep my eye out for potential jobs, I obviously hadn’t been applying. As I always do when I freak out, I called my mom. Without skipping a beat, she said I should decline it. Put him back on the waiting list (indicating that we’ll need care in another month or two), start applying for jobs, see what I get, and if I somehow find a job before another spot opens up at daycare, she would come from Colorado to Oklahoma to watch him. My mom is a saint.

Two days ago, I started applying for jobs. Living in a tiny town has its pros and cons. One pro is that there isn’t too much job competition in my field. One con is that there aren’t many job openings to begin with. I found TWO in my field for which I actually qualify. And I’m hoping they pay enough to actually make it worth putting my kid in daycare 🙂 If neither work out, I’ll just have to keep looking and applying. Man, adulting sucks. #millennialproblems

I will say… submitting applications has given me a small sense of relief. Sometimes anticipation is the worst part.

Have yall ever had to go back to work after having a baby? What was your experience? Let me know in the comments!

6 thoughts on “Applying for Jobs After Having a Baby

  1. Kristin

    Man, this post took me back down memory lane. I felt the exact same way you did. I thought it would be a breeze to go back to work, but suddenly my son was 3 months old and my maternity leave was up! I did go back to work for about 6 months, but then I became a stay-at-home mom. I think it’s one of those things where “you don’t know until you try.”

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  2. Sandra

    My experience was a bit reverse. I was fresh out of university and could not wait to get on with teaching. I subbed for a full school year and learned, on our one year anniversary, that I was expecting! I was thrilled, but anxious because MY plan was to teach for 5 years and then start our family. Ha! I was due in January, offered a job over the phone in July and started teaching 2nd grade in August. I put in paper work for maternity leave in October to the surprise of all 4 principals. I went back to work after my allowed 6 weeks MLeave. It all went well! I was 23, my husband was 21 earning next to nothing as a 2-stripe Airman as well as attending college classes after his 12 hour / 6 day a week schedule. I did the same with my second baby (new location slightly different juggling) and again with my third, only I went back to teach one more year after being home with him for his first 8 months. I was finally ready to stay home full time with a 5, 3 and 1 year old! All this in a span of 6 years and 3 military moves. I think some of us just have that itch to work and sense of obligation to earn a wage for our family. Best to you with your decisions and direction. Can’t wait to read more!

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    1. millennialcake Post author

      Thanks for the comment, Sandra! What you experienced is what I had expected to experience—fresh out of school and ready to work! I was so shocked when I didn’t feel that way. Well, I *did* feel that way while pregnant… then Jack got here, and he totally tipped my world upside down. Like you, I feel a sense of obligation to earn a wage for my family. Our goal is to continue living as we do on Corey’s income and use my income to pay off my student debt (in half the time I’m allotted), then focus on savings. We already have our little nest egg (inspired by Dave Ramsey haha), but we definitely want to grow it. It’s just so much harder than I thought it would be to leave my kiddo. Pretty sure I’m going to be the mom sobbing as she leaves her baby at daycare for the first time haha. I actually have a job interview tomorrow morning, so we’ll see how it goes! It is awesome and inspiring to hear that you did it with all three kids. Maybe I’m building it up to be worse than it actually will be!

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  3. Sandra

    Best to you regarding your morning interview and leaving Jack at daycare. It’s tough at times…all of it, but it all works out as it is meant. Funny thing, I just had my first ever one-way interview this morning for one of two school districts where I am currently subbing and hope to get picked up full-time. That was a first! You, literally, go to a website where you are prompted to answer 5-6 Qs and record yourself answering them. I went back into the classroom last year after almost 20 years (as a classroom teacher) and I absolutely loved it! Children are timeless! We shall see how it all turns out. You’ll be great tomorrow, and Jack will (possibly) cry, scream, smile, settle, lol and meet a few new friends! You two got this one.

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    1. millennialcake Post author

      Sorry it took me so long to reply! I think the interview went okay, but haven’t heard back yet. So, we’ll see! I’m sure it will all work out. The anticipation is hard though 🙂 I’m not always the most patient without a solid plan haha. I haven’t heard of interviews being done that way—recording yourself and submitting them on a website. Times are changing, I guess! Interesting. Hope you get picked up full time 🙂 I can tell you really love being in the classroom.

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  4. Sandra

    PS: My go-to movie (even now) for such events is Baby Boom with Diane Keaton. Very 80s and predictable, which I love, but loads of fun to see the challenges of “having your cake and eating it, too” play out.

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